7 simple tips that will improve your quality of life
Each of us can definitely do one thing – change our internal climate, let go of some of the tension and find the right resources inside.
To feel your worth adequately, it is worth healing the 7 aspects that make up the attitude to yourself.
1.Reassure the inner critic
The inner critic is a figure (person) whose opinion was once significant to us (mom, dad, grandma, grandpa, teacher, etc.) and eventually became our inner voice.
We have grown up, external figures may no longer be present in our lives, and the voice in our head continues to sound:
you can't do it;
your hands are growing out of one place;
who will need you;
you can't handle it, etc.
It devalues, deprives you of opportunities, does not allow you to manifest, does not allow you to be free. And gradually forms distorted scenarios and attitudes that we live through. Sometimes it takes several months, and in some cases years, to realize and change these programs.
2.Transform your inner beliefs
Often psychologists and leading practitioners say: "Take the old installation and replace it with a new one.” No! It just doesn't work that way. It is impossible to get rid of a belief that you have lived with for years in half an hour.
And you don't need to get rid of it and fight it. Fighting is always a waste of resources, a waste of energy. It is important to transform limiting beliefs through awareness and intention. And then fix the new reaction with actions in practice. This is a deep work on yourself, but it's worth it.
3.Make friends with the shadow
Fears, guilt, and shame are the most difficult to bear feelings that we usually run away from. And everything that is repressed, to which we close our eyes, continues to unconsciously influence, folding our essence into a tangle of indecision and inability.
Therefore, for an adequate perception of yourself, it is important to explore and realize how our shadow qualities manifest themselves.
4.Free yourself from envy
The energy of envy is our blocked resource. Where we envy, there is a message for us!
It is important to be able to see and decipher it, otherwise the energy instead of development is directed to self-destruction and eats away at us from the inside.
5.Balance the state of the inner child
The inner child is a part of our personality that is responsible for creativity, play, spontaneity, and the desire to rejoice in the here and now.
I am often asked how to raise my inner child. No way!
In moments of difficult stressful situations, it is important for us to feel the inner support. Another part of the personality is responsible for this — the inner adult. It helps not to fall into a state of helplessness and hopelessness.
For an adequate self-assessment, the manifestations of each of the parts and the balance between them are important.
6.Feel the inner value
Working with the body, voice, feelings, appearance-all this together gives a sense of inner value, integrity and forms an adequate self-esteem.
Be sure to accompany all your goals with a detailed plan of how they can be achieved. The goals of "eating healthier" and "providing less stress" are bound to fail. The plan should be clear, concrete, and measurable.In this case, the key factor is the numbers. For example, you need to plan not to "exercise more", but to "attend 2 workouts a week".
For the goals to be achievable, the numbers need to describe the process, not the result. Instead of saying "I want to be thinner", you need to plan that "you need to do 20 squats every day before breakfast and skip lunch 2 times a week." It is worth telling yourself what you need to do, and not about what you want the result to be.
7.Hear your wishes and needs
When self-esteem is violated, we put other people's desires first, and we postpone our own until better times. We say: "It's not time yet, I'll find a new job, meet a new man, the children will grow up and then…”. Adequate self-esteem brings us back to the here and now. We begin to hear and respect our own needs, understand how to meet them without waiting for outside help and approval.
Unrealistic goals are the number one reason for failure. If someone is planning something large-scale, it is worth making sure that the global plan is broken down into several small, really feasible stages. This is contrary to intuitive decision-making, but it will have a much better chance of success.