How not to waste energy and live in full force?
How great it is to be an energetic and cheerful person!
This is the feeling when it seems that you can roll mountains and cope with any task! And not only during the holidays, but always. Most people experience chronic fatigue and loss of strength, it is not at all due to the fact that there is a lot of stress and a frenzied rhythm in society. More precisely, so — and with this, too, but not in the first place.
There are people who live in megacities, work in responsible jobs, have a large family and at the same time are full of energy, which they have enough for hobbies, self-development, travel. And there are people who get tired before they start doing something).
The key point here is to understand where we spend energy and how we replenish it. And the first is much more important. Rather than looking for ways to fill up with energy, isn't it easier not to waste it? And in order to do this, it is important to be aware of the connection between your actions and your emotional state.
The energy itself does not go anywhere. Sometimes it's easier for us to think that a noisy city, hard work and toxic communication takes away all our strength. We perform actions that lead to a loss of energy.
Where does the energy go?
#1. Unfinished business
Any business has a cycle: idea — action — result:
First there is a plan. On a wave of enthusiasm, we imagine in all colors the result of the case. It gives us energy and stimulates us to action.
We are starting to implement our plans. That is, we direct our energy to the task.
When the case is completed and we see the result that suits us, we experience emotional satisfaction. It gives us energy. And the cycle closes.
But in practice, it doesn't always work out so well. Very often we get stuck at the 2nd stage, and the cycle remains incomplete. This happens if the case turned out to be more complicated than we expected (it requires more time, effort, money). Or if too many cases have accumulated at one point in time, and there is simply not enough energy to complete them. And the reason may also be an elementary inability to plan things and set deadlines for their implementation.
Unfinished business takes away energy and causes emotional decline! They resemble anchors that do not allow you to move forward. And the more unfinished business "hangs", the more devastated you feel.
You can advise:
Don't plan too many things at the same time. Look for your middle ground between the lack of tasks and too many of them.
Solve complex tasks in stages. At the end of each intermediate stage, record the result. This will give the necessary completeness and a surge of energy to accomplish the "big thing".
Don't set yourself impossible tasks. Too difficult tasks, which are not yet up to your shoulders, will drain your energy reserve. It's good to set the bar a little higher than current abilities.
Be sure to praise yourself for each completed task or stage on the way to its completion, regardless of the result. If the result turned out to be worse than expected, just praise yourself for trying, trying, getting experience.
Do not set indefinite tasks. Each case must have a time reference point, otherwise it will be pushed back "until better times" and will be incomplete.
Incomplete cycles can be not only for material things (to buy a thing, clean up at home, learn English, do yoga), but also for emotional ones too! For example, you promise a lot and fulfill little. Or keep a lot of resentment against someone and do not express it. It's like a mess, just not in the apartment, but in the shower. Until you clear this mess, it will be difficult to move forward.
#2. Life in masks
Nothing takes so much energy as living in masks! We start trying on masks in childhood and this happens as a response to the behavior of our parents. If parents scold or punish the child at the moment when he sincerely shows his feelings, emotions, abilities.
A person remembers these rules of the game from childhood, and continues to follow them as an adult. That is, he plays a role, fearing that otherwise he will not receive the approval of colleagues, friends, a loved one. This is a typical situation for most people! And it leads to the fact that sometimes we are unable to separate ourselves from the masks we wear and start living our lives.
It's a heavy burden to constantly match the chosen role, which is not really close to your soul! This drains and takes away a lot of vital energy, which could be directed to the realization of talents and true desires.
You can advise:
Be aware of what masks you are wearing. To do this, ask yourself: how important is the opinion of other people to me? how painfully do I react to criticism? how often do I compare myself to someone? in what situations am I afraid to be myself? for example, am I afraid of appearing more stupid than others? what do I do in the end: do I live with this fear or do something despite the fear?
Understand that masks are always the result of self-rejection. Once you love and accept yourself with all your flaws, you stop being afraid that others will not accept you with all your flaws. You just let yourself be yourself.
Form a new, positive experience. To do this, start showing yourself in what you were afraid to show earlier — talk about your desires, express your opinion, joke out loud.
Before you consciously give up the mask, thank her from the bottom of your heart. After all, you needed it for something all these years. Perhaps she was protecting you from potential heartache.
Getting rid of other people's masks, with which you have lived most of your life, is not always easy and fast. If it is difficult for you to cope with this task yourself, then look for people who will help you, read books, study various techniques.
#3. Inefficient food
Few people think about the fact that food can also take energy. You may ask — how is it, because we eat to get, and not to lose energy?! Indeed, food should be converted as efficiently as possible into the energy necessary for life. But to do this, you need to:
the food was digested quickly and easily (it didn't take much energy to digest);
the food was absorbed as fully as possible (did not provoke the formation of toxins);
the food was saturated (it contained vitamins, minerals, and other nutrients).
First of all, a lot of energy is spent on digesting heavy animal food. Surely, each of you is familiar with this effect — when after a hearty lunch you want to lie down on the sofa and sleep. The body spends a lot of energy on removing these toxins. And this happens all the time — the body does not have time to digest one meal, as a new portion of heavy food arrives.
It turns out that the body spends shock doses of energy simply on digestion and the fight against toxins.
There is so much energy that it becomes quite natural to spend it on various activities — running, swimming, yoga, exercise. And there is enough strength for all this after a working day! This is not a miracle, but only the result of the fact that the energy that was previously spent on digestion and removal of toxins has been released and is now being directed to interesting activities!
You can advise:
Eat as many fresh vegetables, fruits, and greens as possible. Recharge with the energy of healthy carbohydrates!
Drink a lot of water, but it should be pure water without harmful impurities.
Try to avoid heavy animal food, which deprives you of energy and, ultimately, health. Try to start eating only healthy food for at least a month, and you will already see the result.
#4. Unloved things
We experience negative emotions in the process of doing an unloved thing, and even when it is completed, the result does not bring satisfaction and joy. This means that the energy is not replenished, and we feel a decline in strength.
Remember how sincerely you rejoice when you manage to do what you have wanted for a long time! For example: bake a delicious cake, learn English, lose weight (for everyone — something different). And this joy compensates for the fatigue that could arise in the process of achieving the goal. And now remember how you feel when you complete a task that is unpleasant to you. Fatigue, emptiness.
That is why an unloved job is so exhausting, even if it is not a difficult job at all in terms of physical or mental stress.
Of course, it is hardly possible to get rid of all the unloved things. There will always be things that need to be done. For example, I don't like to wash the floor and dust, but I do it from time to time. But if there are a lot of such cases in your life, then this is a signal to change something. Otherwise, you will turn into a tired person with faded eyes.
You can advise:
I have nothing to say here. If you really think you should be unhappy and tired, then so be it. But it still seems to me that every person is created to be happy.
Those unpleasant things that somehow appear in your life, perform in stages. Set yourself intermediate tasks and be sure to praise yourself for completing them. It seems unimportant, but in practice it works great!
#5. In general terms, a sign of "toxic behavior" is when two parallel monologues take place instead of a productive dialogue. This happens when one or both interlocutors pursue hidden goals in a conversation. For example, to assert yourself (to show your status), to raise self-esteem (by devaluing the interlocutor). To vent aggression (which originated elsewhere with another person). In this case, the interlocutors have no points of emotional contact, which means that the energy goes through such pseudo-communication to nowhere.
You can advise:
If you communicate with a person who constantly tells you about their problems, they ask for your advice. And for each of your advice finds counterarguments and a thousand "buts", then stop giving advice. He doesn't need them. He just wants to complain and play a game of "how miserable I am." Just agree with how unhappy he is.
If you communicate with a person who scandalizes "from scratch", then do not feed him with energy, do not enter into an argument and do not defend your position. It's better to discuss the situation later, when the passions settle down. If this person is dear to you, and you are to him, then he will try to stop throwing out negativity on you. If not, then you just need to stop communicating with such a person.
There are such people. who love to find fault, criticize and argue. They can easily devalue you or your work. It is better to agree with such people once than to argue endlessly all your life! For you, these long, dreary arguments are just a waste of energy.
Over time, you will learn very quickly to recognize a "toxic" person in the interlocutor and will be able to move away from destructive communication during the time.
These five points are sources of energy loss. Awareness of them helps not to waste energy, to live in full force and not to complain.
Be yourself, accept yourself with all the "imperfections", praise yourself for success, plan things according to real possibilities. Eat healthy food, do what you like. Being able to communicate openly and without conflicts is what helps to save energy for a rich, vibrant life!
We wish you to stay cheerful and energized for the most interesting activities, developing hobbies and exciting adventures!